Tips for dating a doctor
I wouldnt see a reason to keep it a secret, especially if were getting serious.” If youre worried that your health secret might be a deal-breaker, youll want to 'fess up by the fourth date, says Rachel A.Sussman, LCSW, a New York City therapist and relationship expert.However, she hasnt told him about her bipolar disorderyet. [But] I truly believe when you share a life with someone, you need to be in it together,” she says. “Its hard not to kill the mood with your health secret, because its probably not something that can be easily segued from a topic you would normally discuss,” Davis says.
“Usually Ill work it into another aspect of our conversation,” she says.“Its good to have somebody as a sounding board in a situation like this,” he says.“How you handle this is not something your partner is likely to forget.” Laurie Davis, an online dating expert based in New York and Boston, suggests asking a friend what sounds most intimidating about your condition and getting his or her advice on how to smooth it over.Getting a second opinion can help you decide how much to say (and when and where to say it), and running through your script a few times can make you more comfortable sharing your story.“You dont want to overwhelm your partner but you want to be sure to give him or her all of the important facts,” Davis says.